NORTH ST. PAUL, Minn. -- Kham Xiong had a way with people. In eighth grade he charmed himself right into Shoua Her's heart.
"He always knows what to do to make me happy and he was very caring and loving," Her said.
The two married right after high school in 2004 and dreamed of having kids, a big house, and a military career. Four years ago Xiong moved Her and their three kids from North St. Paul to Fort Hood, Texas to pursue his dream.
Xiong was getting ready for his first deployment when Her got word about a shooting on base. "I immediately texted Kham and he didn't reply back and I called and he didn't pick up so I started to get worried," she said.
Her asked everyone she knew for information but no one could tell her anything. Finally, came the 3 a.m. knock on the door.
"I looked out the window and there were two military men and I knew when I saw them," she said.
Xiong was one of 13 people killed when Maj. Nidal Hasan went on a shooting rampage on November 5, 2009. Last month Xiong's wife faced her husband's killer for the first time as she testified against him.
"I was nervous to see him but once I saw him, it was like 'you were the one that did this?' Because he's paralyzed now and he's pale and really frail and I think he's already paying for what he did," Her said.
Hasan was found guilty and sentenced to death, a decision Her is pleased with.
While Hassan waits on death row Her's life is beginning again. After Xiong's death she battled depression for two years but found strength through her children, who are now all in elementary school.
Her enrolled in school at Century College with hopes to be a social worker to help other military families and widows.
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