On Tuesday, a singer, rapper and writer released her first hardcover book of essays.

Her name is Dessa.

In that book she tackles all sorts of topics surrounding the life of a touring rapper and one of those topics is so compelling, well, it’s worth its own story.

It is the topic of falling out of love, and if there is a way, using science, to do that.

It's hard to imagine Dessa having a hard time with anything.

Her resume includes performing at the likes of Lollapalooza, Glastonbury, the Minnesota Orchestra and almost every city in the world.

She's written original books of poetry, she pens essays for The New York Times.

But in her latest book she revels she has fallen prey to something we all have too.


"The whole book is true stories you know, so, if you only tell true stories where you are the hero well then your stories are not very true and not that compelling," Dessa said, explaining why she got so honest in this latest book, "My Own Devices."

So the heartbreak story Cliffs Notes go something like this ...

Dessa fell hard and fast for a fella over a decade ago.

They made it work, and they made it not work.

And then they did that again, and again, and again.

Come a couple of years ago she was ready to find out if she could let it go for good.

"I was ready to move ON," she said, with emphasis.

After trying all the 'regular' ways a broken heart should heal Dessa took a route, only Dessa would take.

"After struggling to fall out of love myself for a long time I did end up doing quite a bit of study on the brain and how that particular organ participates in the feeling of love that we have and trying to figure out if it could be kickstarted to get over somebody if you knew there wasn't a viable relationship in store," Dessa said.

So her basic yet complicated question, could love be extinguished by science?

"I did at least participate in some work with real scientists yes," Dessa said.

She enlisted real neuroscientists at the University of Minnesota to take on her heart, that wouldn't move on.

"I went into a FMRI machine to try and figure out if I could find the location of the parts of my brain that were the most active in love," Dessa said.

And that machine did indeed tell her team what was going on.

As in it she was shown two images while lying still. One of her former boyfriend and one of a man who looks like him.

Only looking at the real ex-beau did Dessa's brain light up in the danger zones.

So, the fix was then bringing in a neurofeedback expert to train her brain in those moments to change course.

"Investigating it from a scientific lens felt really satisfying," Dessa said.

So, did she crack the fall out of love code?

"Well at least, I've learned about love and how people fall out of it," she said.

When asked if it helped out she said this.

"It did. It's not eternal sunshine, I didn't etch a sketch myself clean or lobotomize myself or anything but I felt less shook, less fixated and before I felt like I was at the mercy of my feelings," Dessa said.

And now she's no longer at the mercy of them.

Sure, she still loves, and yes she has been told she can love someone else, again.

But for now, to quote her own words, she's been able to call off her ghost.

And write her own story.

For better, or for worse.

Dessa’s book, My Own Devices, is available in bookstores and online. A link to purchase from her website is here.

Dessa reads from "My Own Devices"

In Dessa's new book, "My Own Devices," she tells the story of her attempt to fall out of love - using science. She shared a passage with KARE 11's Jana Shortal.

Posted by KARE 11 on Tuesday, September 18, 2018