GOLDEN VALLEY, Minn. - As you gather with loved ones this holiday season, there's an important conversation you should think about starting.

Jennifer Kuyava, a Palliative Care physician at North Memorial, stopped by KARE 11 with some tips about how to discuss end-of-life decisions.

While many shy away from the conversation, others say it's the best discussion they have ever had.

Here's a few tips:

-- Do it in person: The holidays bring people together and it's a great opportunity to talk about the issues everyone should feel a part of. It's easier -- and gets better results -- to do these in person, rather than over the phone or via email.

-- Remember the loved ones who have died: Start by remembering family members and loved ones who have died in the past few years. Steer the conversation to how the family handled the end-of-life experience. Was it good? Bad? Ask what people remember about it and what they learned from it.

-- Refer to something you saw: Approach the topic by referring to these television spots. "I saw something interesting on KARE 11 last week, and it got me thinking ..." or "I was watching the news and this doctor was talking about how important it is to have conversations about what we want at the end of our lives. Have you ever thought about that?"